Sunday, May 13, 2018

Family and Success: UBUNTU "I Am Because We Are"

Love Yascone at the Omni Hotel
She will always hold a place for family

It has been hard for a lot of families this year.  Actually, it feels like family relationships have been challenged for the past few years.  It has been more than a year since I posted on this blog.  I knew since last year what I wanted to say but I could never find a good jumping off point.  Over the last two years I noticed there were so many things I wanted to share with my family.  So many things I have learned, experienced and enjoyed. I wanted to really share with my mother, sisters, grandmother, aunts and all the rest.  I noticed that even when we all attended the same events my family would miss something that to me was a major moment.  I found that when I tried to explain these moments and experiences a lot of times they would fall on deaf ears.  It was then that I realized one of the purposes of this blog.  It was to share with my family.  I wanted to share what I discovered and let’s face it a lot of times we forget the most interesting things we learn.  Still, why is it so important to me?

On Facebook I discovered a way of life that explains my need to share.  I found this pic (I Think on Earth Tribe).  Its teachings are very clear.  Cross the finish line together.

I am one of those people who could have easily crossed the finish line of life alone.  In fact, success can find me easily when I am alone.  The problem is I always felt the way of UBUNTU.  Since the day I was born I knew being the one with all the toys was not true success.  I also knew that getting to the top and reaching back, was for me anyway, not a true victory.  I always saw my life as walking hand in hand with my tribe.  There is no need for a savior if you all go together.  In America UBUNTU is not a way of life.  We are taught the opposite.  Someone with my particular nature here in the USA at best can be viewed as naïve and at worst…crazy.  In fact I did not know that this way of life was a real thing until last week, when I needed to see this the most, UBUNTU. 

I don’t know if I felt this way due to cellular memory or if it is just my spirit nature.  What I do know is that I am not crazy, I am not naïve, but I am a person in a country that does not understand the meaning of UBUNTU.  I need to adjust.  I need to learn how to hold open a space while I move forward.  It is my intention to hold open a space for my tribe so that whenever an individual is ready they can join me.  This blog is just one of those tools.  It is one way to bring my tribe with me.  “I am because WE are.” For me success is impossible if I forget that.


Friday, January 27, 2017

From W Magazine to Chrissy Teigen to Asking Yourself Those Questions

I love W magazine.  My Aunt Yvonne would send us (Love Joy & Faith) the magazine when we were just 10 years old.  Well, I was 10.  It was our first exposure to high fashion beyond Vogue.  (We loved Vogue too by the way. ) I have been getting back into being me and that includes reading W magazine.  While reading W's article Natural Beauty Chrissy Teigen Loves Contouring I became inspired.  I wanted to know how I would answer these questions.  I wanted to know if I could answer these questions.  Would I like my answers to these questions? Then I wondered how Joy, who is almost my twin (we are the same age for nearly 4 months out of the year) would answer.  Then I asked myself, "How would my answers affect my life?" Would I need or rather want to get rid of somethings? Would I be a little more focused because I discovered/remembered part of myself? The questions are not what you would consider life changing but for me it was.  

Asking Joy the same questions also taught me a few things about myself as well as my sister.  I know Joy remembers me interviewing her but she was very ill at the time.  I was concerned wouldn't have the same impact for her.  Oddly enough I discovered this morning it did but I doubt she realizes it fully yet.  Joy, began to clear away all the bullshit in her head and think about what she wanted.  She has begun to focus on high fashion again and what makes life fun for her.  She said she wasn't going to try to adapt herself to others.  I know, you may think high fashion isn't important, but imagine if it were something else.  We all at some point people please.  We all forget what gets us going.  We all forget what we did that day we felt supper confident.  

My sister and I want to be our best spiritually, physically and emotionally.  This week for some reason Joy and I both are declaring what we want.  The Chrissy Teigen interview made me say hey let's answer this for ourselves.  We start with Joy's "interview" first.  I don't want our answers side by side.  Yes, it is okay to notice our difference but for me this is not about comparison.  For me, this is just an opportunity to share what works for us.  It is also an opportunity to remember we know what works for us; because the last few years it has been too easy to forget.

Joy Yascone

Your look in three words: 
Joy: bohemian. Cultured. Town-N-Country

Five-minute routine: 
Joy: tinted moisturizer, bronzer, lip gloss, blush peach, peachy nude lipstick, sea salt spray (hair), curl definer

Never leave the house without: 
Joy: Lip Gloss

Beauty from the inside out: 
Joy: Energy of love

Exercise regime:
Joy: Urban walks five to ten miles

Cleanse or not: 
Joy: Yes I cleanse, probiotic heavy (kevita, yogurt), berries, hot water and lemon juice (Inate response )

Beauty essentials:
Joy: lip gloss, lip liner, lipstick, deep conditioner 

Skincare secret: 
Joy: No smoking, No drugs

Hair remedy: Tracey Cunningham is my hair remedy.
Joy: Biolage deep conditioner

In-tub must-read: 
Joy: astrology charts

Spa-cation at: 
Joy: Kholer in Wisconsin 

Fragrance of choice: 
Joy: Mariel by H20 or anything that smells of the sea

Best advice from mom: 
Joy: be true to you

Best advice from the pros: 
Joy: not about what size you wear it is about how you wear it

Beauty icons: 
Joy: Alyssa Milano, Tandy Newton, Angelina Jolie, Marilyn Monroe, Kerry Washington

Love Yascone

Your look in three words: 
Love: Princess. Tomboy. Standout. 

Five-minute routine: 
Love: exfoliate lips, moisturize face (with SPF) if necessary, Bare Minerals Golden Tan powder adding more to the eyes, tinted Mineral Veil, Black mascara, liquid blush, lipstick and lip gloss

Never leave the house without: 
Love: lip gloss and breath mints

Beauty from the inside out: 
Love: Laughing at yourself

Exercise regime: 
Love: Club dancing (preference), Spinning (recently) 

Cleanse or not: 
Love: Yes, I look at what my body needs and determine what kind of cleanse from there.

Beauty essentials:
Love: Facial Moisturizer, Lip Gloss

Skincare secret: 
Love: Sweat (no really, my face is healthier and looks better after a good sweat)

Hair remedy: 
Love: Kinky-Curly 

In-tub must-read: 
Love: I meditate/plan my life. I never read in the tub.

Spa-cation at:  
Love: Kholer

Fragrance of choice: 
Love: Chanel Chance

Best advice from mom: 
Love: buy more than one if it is your favorite 

Best advice from the pros: 
Love: do not line my bottom eyelid 

Beauty icons: 
Love: Ava Gardner, Sofia Vergara, Jennifer Lopez, Lisa Bonet, Vanessa Williams, Pam Grier

Ask yourself these questions.  If any of it doesn't match up with what is really going on with you maybe you need to change things around.  Make your words, heart and actions matchup.

Thursday, January 19, 2017

Saying Yes to the USA and No to the Inauguration

The Obamas at State Dinner with Canada's 1st Family

The day is here.  We go from a country that was moving towards full equality, social acceptance, and education/healthcare for all, longer being that.  January 20, 2017 is a day of elation for a few and a day of horror for the rest of the world but Putin.  I am deciding not to let fear, sadness and uncertainty to dominate my weekend.  I am also deciding not to let the new President and his cabinet of unqualified one percenters take over my weekend and neither should you!!! Even if you are going to a protest keep your eyes on the prize.  Protest for the moral conscious of America and for the rights of American Citizens! Send your energy in the right direction.  In other words starve the jerks! Starve them of energy, attention and ratings.  Feed America, your family, and yourself goodwill and understanding.

So how do we starve them? Well, a lot of us have formed our own ways to protest.  First you have to look at the number one thing the new president cares about ratings and attention.  So, unfortunately certain TV stations are going to be starved too. We are leaving all our TVs on but not on any station that focuses on the transition of power.  If we tweet we won't mention the new presidents name.  If we need to check the news, google the news.  If you can't resist watching the Inauguration watch it on Univision or Telemundo or NHK.  In other words if you want to protest but can't resist watching, watch on a foreign language channel. To make this easier for you, I made a list.

Starve List:

1. Do Not Watch Friday: CNN, NBC, MSNBC, ABC, FOX, FOX News, CBS, Headline News, CNBC or any other station that might have the Inauguration or news of it.
2. Do Not Watch for the Whole Weekend: CNN, MSNBC, FOX News, Headline News, and CNBC
3. Do Not mention of the new 1st family on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram or any other Social Media site.

The Starve List is pretty easy.  The Feed List is a little more intense, lol.  I mean how do we spend our weekend?  How do we avoid looking at the biggest train wreck in American history? Well, why not post a bunch of Youtube videos about how you see the world or what you hope for in the future.  Entertain your family and friends.  (Oh, shit some of my postings have the new prez's name in it.  Oh well no new posting (this weekend) will have his name but I will be reposting some of my old stuff.)  As for me, I am going to be shamelessly promoting myself and my family.  Oh and posting thanks to Obama and other people who make our world great.  Let me just write the list.

Feed List:

1. Turn on all the TV's to channels not covering the transition of power.
    Example: Food Network, Cartoon Network, SyFy Channel
2. Tweet Thanks to people, leaders, and family members who improve your life.
3. Call your local politicians and let them know how you feel.
4. Call the congress members who support equal rights for all and thank them.
5. If you have something of yours to promote this is the weekend to do it.  If your family member is promoting themselves this weekend use the time to support them.  Send energy where it is needed.
6. Go out to eat at a place that serve Mexican food, Chinese food, Indian food, Korean food, Soul Food and any other ethnic group/nationality's cuisine.  Let's celebrate our differences.
7. Post about the rights you love and the rights you will keep!
8. Most of all take an hour for yourself each day this weekend.  You are worth more than our new prez knows.  You are an American citizen. "You are smart.  You are beautiful and You are important." -This is not the exact quote from The Help but you get my point.

New Year's Day Just Me Clowning

Thursday, January 5, 2017

Command 2017 Because Resolutions Are No Longer Good Enough

After living through the year that SHOULD BE STRUCK from history, I will not depend on wishes, resolutions or "Good Thoughts" to get me what I want.  I mean resolutions are supposed to be "a firm decision to do or not do something" by definition! If you dare to look back at that GOD AWFUL YEAR that shall not be named you will realize it will take more than a resolution to get through the next four years.  That hateful year has set us all back.  I mean we are going to need more than a resolution to make this better.  It is not that I won't make wishes, set goals and have resolutions but I need something more than those things to improve my life and my family's life!  The results of last year's actions presumably will set us all back this year and the three years to come.  I am determined not to let that happen.  In fact, the whole country can go completely insane, but I am determined to make sure we thrive.  We can't afford any weak links not this year.

There are some "Must Do's" for the "4":

1. Will make more than we spend.
2. Will laugh more than we fight.
3. Will learn our bodies strengths (enhance) and weaknesses (improve).
4. Will expand our talents.
5. Will expand our knowledge.
6. Perfect health is a must.
7. Spiritual health is a must.
8. Building alliances is a must.
9. We must reach our physical goals because our very lives (not just quality of life) may depend on it.
10. Most of all we must learn the REAL VALUE of everything.  Remember the value of money fluctuates.

I know to many of  you I am speaking too generally but my grandmother taught me to speak in code and for my family this is specific enough.  By the time the Kentucky Derby rolls around everyone should be able to see if we are on track or not.  Phase I of 2017 is to wipe out every weakness I have.  Phase II of 2017 is for people to see that I really do live my life as art.  Phase III for My Royal Family 4 is to make sure our large family (aunts, uncles, cousins) are all strong links.  We are only as strong as our weakest.  Phase IV BEST CHRISTMAS EVER and assessing what needs to happen next.

Right now I am not worried about the body goals for two of the members of My Royal Family 4.  I am working out 5x a week these days.  One sister is in a ballroom dancing competition so she will be fine too.  Oddly it is the skinniest of the sisters and of course our mom who may need help getting it into gear.  They are both very serious but their focus is being pulled toward money.  I hate to say it but health, body image and money are going to be linked this year more than ever.  There is one thing I know about us, if one does well the others will catch up.  I guess this year I will be Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer.   I will be in front guiding the sleigh during the snowstorm although they may not notice until we reach the end of Phase I, lol.  Phase I the focus is clearing away all the "stuff" and finding the doors we never even knew existed.  I want to smile while reaching all my goals.  I want to cast "doubt", "what if" (the bad ones) and "fear" aside for good. Phase I, is the most important because if only Phase I is completed I am still having a very good year.

That brings us to the command part of 2017! We will not lose anymore ground 2017 that is a command! Do you understand me? Tell 2017 what you expect of it.  Command it to behave the way you need it to and don't look back at that awful, star killing year we just had.

2017 my commands are as follows:

My body will be as I choose not as my negative emotions choose.  I will be healthier, hotter, and more physically powerful than my best self.  This extends to all members of my family as well.

I will enjoy myself, my life and all of my rights.  This is not negotiable!

2017 You will literally remove all racist and hateful people from my personal path.

My time will be spent making money and living life as art.

My family will be more protected than Fort Knox.

Only those who add light, fun, wisdom, opportunity, and true friendship can be brought into any of my family's circle.

Mend all of my family's misunderstandings, hurts and disagreements so we may help and enhance each other's lives and futures.

Anyone not in my family who has sought to harm anyone in my family or to wrongfully take from anyone in my family will be removed and bound from harming any of us again and 2017 must restore by 1000x what has been taken.  

I will work easy because life is easy when you work without fear.  I must change my mindset because hard work only gets you so far.  Creative work, now that gets you beyond your wildest dreams.  Most of all 2017 I will clown around because life needs a laugh or two.

Now more than ever it is important to have fun.


One New Year's Resolution Completed Thanks to CycleBar

Wednesday, November 2, 2016

Have A Voting Party! Don't Let Fear and Intimidation Suppress Your Vote!

Joy Yascone, Love Yascone, Glenda Yascone
Are Supporting Jim Gray for US Senate (Kentucky)

We have all heard Trump telling his frankly proud alt-right deplorables to monitor the polls.  We have all heard how some of them are bringing their guns.  That's odd because many precincts are held at elementary schools (gun & drug free zones).  Some counties in America are canceling school for that reason.  Fear has been a major weapon used to suppress the vote (liberal votes, women & minorities and anyone voting against the GOP).  Your vote is the most powerful weapon against fear.  Now I personally believe you should vote early.  I think it is the safest way to protect yourself and your vote.  It gives you time to deal with any problems that may come up.  It frees you up to help get out the vote on November 8th.  It makes it harder to target you if you vote at an early voting center instead of your personal precinct.  But let's say you can't vote early and you are afraid of being harassed by some Trumpkin Trumpster Fire.  There is no reason to go to your polling precinct alone.

Love Yascone, Joy Yascone,
 & Glenda Yascone

That's right there is no reason to fear going to the polls.  Plan a voting party.  Make a voting parade for family and friends.  Of course don't wear any campaign material to the polls because that is illegal but you don't have to go there alone.  Coordinate a time when you and your family go to vote.  If you all live in the same precinct it makes life easy.  Plan to vote early that morning and then have brunch together.  If you don't all live in the same precinct then plan this party right.  Pick a 2 hour window in which you will begin your voting party.  Start in the precinct that you have the most voters  and then work your way out from there.  Go to the next nearest precinct to the one you just left.  Stick together.  Give yourselves enough time to get to each precinct and make it fun.  At the very least you can set up a buddy system.  Go to the polls in twos or threes.  Find neighbors who have like political views and plan to go with them.  No one has a right to intimidate you.  No one has a right to suppress your vote.  Vote early together, have breakfast together and if you have to go to work go to work and then meet up later for drinks.  Take lunch breaks together and go and vote.  Your employer must give you time off to vote it is the law.  If you wait to vote after work, well it will be more fun to have someone wait in line with you.  Hopefully happy hour will still be going on after you vote.  After this election we all deserve Happy Hour.

Eddie Merlot's 

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Who Cares! I'm American and There's NO TRUMPING THAT!

As Americans we should all be angry! We have a great country but Trump tells us we are beat up and beat down.  Really? Really? I have a few questions for you.  Of what country do you wish you were a citizen? If you are American, do you feel lucky that you are American? Really, have you thought about it? I have.  All four of us feel lucky to be American.  Now don't get me wrong.  We love other countries.  We are addicted to Korean Dramas and Japanese Anime.  We love listening to French and Arabic music.  What the hell, we love every corner on this beautiful planet; even when we don't.  Why is Trump trying to make us think that being American is being disadvantaged.  Being American is the greatest advantage.  Now being women and a minorities has its disadvantages in America but being American is still pretty awesome.  

Trump treats America like a creepy guy treats a beautiful woman.  You know the type. Creepy guy says, "Oh you were once that hottest girl in here but not anymore.  Those girls over there are so much hotter than you."  Trump keeps telling America she's no longer "that hot" so that her confidence is shattered and she takes him home, or in this case, votes for him.  I am here to tell you, America, you are still the hottest girl on the planet.  No need to take that creep home!  America you know why you are so pretty? Women are free to get an education, dress how they please and decide their own futures.  In America we can marry who we love, man or woman (black, white, asian, native american or latino)! America you are hot because you are a melting pot of ideas and cultures and because of this you are extremely creative.  But most of all America you are beautiful because you are still evolving, changing and progressing.  One day full equality will be achieved by you and your citizens.  One day your people will achieve true tolerance.  One day we will all look at each other and see HOW BEAUTIFUL WE ARE and a creep like Trump will never approach us!

Last Saturday, Faith and Mom (Glenda the Good) went to a charity ball (Pink Ball for breast cancer). At the same time Joy and I went to a political event to meet Jim Gray.  Jim Gray is running for US Senate.  Then Joy and I went to dinner at a four star restaurant.  Then all four of us met at home. Changed into our hottest clothes and went to the gay Club Play. (Every race, culture, sexual preference, gender,  age group and religion was there, even muslim!)  Yes, that was all in one evening.  That is what it means to live in America! 


Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Halloween and The American Horror Story Election: We Are Caught In The Middle of a Fun Holiday and a Terrible Election

I was going to talk about how my family is divided between Halloween and the election.  I was going to say that Mom & Faith are focused on our party.  Joy is focused on making the best contacts for us and of course I am focused mainly on saving our country from the reality show American Horror Story: Election.  Mom and Faith just walked into the house and guess what? They had a two hour "discussion" with a Trump supporter.  Faith is vowing to not go out again unless absolutely necessary.  For her, running into another Trump supporter would be a real nightmare.  And there you have it, even mom (Glenda the Good) and Faith Hope, who have been the only two fighting to enjoy Halloween got pulled into this horror story today.

We have an election with a p**sy groping hand, claims that the Central Park 5 aren't innocent (even though they are), Putin digging around in American politics, and racism becoming mainstream! It is a nightmare and for a while mom and Faith did their best to keep this election in the far background of their lives.  We are all voting for Clinton.  We all watch the debates.  I unfortunately spend almost every moment online and watching CNN and MSNBC.  Don't get me wrong Halloween is like my favorite holiday.  My ringtone used to be the theme song from the movie Halloween.  I really wish I could relax and enjoy this time but I can't.  I am worried about my beloved country.  We are a proud melting pot with many beautiful holidays and traditions including Halloween.  We are a divided family because we can't agree on how we need to spend our time.  We are all voting but I feel we need to do more than that.  The rest of My Royal Family 4 would like spend more time enjoying this beautiful Fall weather, of course they can't really because the election is everywhere and they are very concerned.

I want to have a good time but the election is literally ruining what would normally be great moments.  When the four of us go out to a bar we hear awful things from these Trump supporters.  When we watch the debates we scream at the TV because of the ridiculous, racist, sexist and just plain wrong things that Trump says.  We are even disagreeing on how to respond to this living nightmare.  I say we vote early and go to a battleground state on election day.  Mom says we should vote and just live our lives.  Mom and I had a major argument.  She raised all of us to be active in defending our rights as women and as black women.  I know that our energy will help get at least one person to vote that may have skipped the polls. I think we should be in a battleground state on election day.  Joy and Faith are remaining neutral.  They both think our energy needs to focus on our businesses but they also want to be part of the festivities election day.

Tomorrow is the last debate.  I had planned to have a party but after the last debate I am afraid.  We will watch but we may not invite people over.  Then again we may.  We throw last minute parties all the time.  The first debate Faith made Korean food.  The second debate we went to Clinton's Louisville, KY headquarters.  Tomorrow we will stay home.  I think the theme should be comfort food.  We need some comfort right now.  I intend to vote this Friday.  I intend to be in a battleground state on Nov. 8, 2016.  I must admit I am tired of it all.  This Saturday Halloween will have my focus. I will try my best to make sure the rest of the 4 feel great and energized.  I will do my best to make this nightmare of an election our best HALLOWEEN EVER!  I don't know how but it starts right after the last debate and I can't wait.  If I get Joy, Mom and Faith really happy maybe they will help me on Nov. 8th. I'm not asking them to work all day, just maybe 2 hours and then we'll explore the city.  Maybe spread some early Holiday cheer.  I added a poll asking what city we should visit, please vote.  It will help me persuade them.

Click here to tell us which Battleground city is more fun and needs our help November 8th!