Family and Success: UBUNTU "I Am Because We Are"

Love Yascone at the Omni Hotel
She will always hold a place for family
UBUNTU 

It has been hard for a lot of families this year.  Actually, it feels like family relationships have been challenged for the past few years.  It has been more than a year since I posted on this blog.  I knew since last year what I wanted to say but I could never find a good jumping off point.  Over the last two years I noticed there were so many things I wanted to share with my family.  So many things I have learned, experienced and enjoyed. I wanted to really share with my mother, sisters, grandmother, aunts and all the rest.  I noticed that even when we all attended the same events my family would miss something that to me was a major moment.  I found that when I tried to explain these moments and experiences a lot of times they would fall on deaf ears.  It was then that I realized one of the purposes of this blog.  It was to share with my family.  I wanted to share what I discovered and let’s face it a lot of times we forget the most interesting things we learn.  Still, why is it so important to me?

On Facebook I discovered a way of life that explains my need to share.  I found this pic (I Think on Earth Tribe).  Its teachings are very clear.  Cross the finish line together.

I am one of those people who could have easily crossed the finish line of life alone.  In fact, success can find me easily when I am alone.  The problem is I always felt the way of UBUNTU.  Since the day I was born I knew being the one with all the toys was not true success.  I also knew that getting to the top and reaching back, was for me anyway, not a true victory.  I always saw my life as walking hand in hand with my tribe.  There is no need for a savior if you all go together.  In America UBUNTU is not a way of life.  We are taught the opposite.  Someone with my particular nature here in the USA at best can be viewed as naïve and at worst…crazy.  In fact I did not know that this way of life was a real thing until last week, when I needed to see this the most, UBUNTU. 

I don’t know if I felt this way due to cellular memory or if it is just my spirit nature.  What I do know is that I am not crazy, I am not naïve, but I am a person in a country that does not understand the meaning of UBUNTU.  I need to adjust.  I need to learn how to hold open a space while I move forward.  It is my intention to hold open a space for my tribe so that whenever an individual is ready they can join me.  This blog is just one of those tools.  It is one way to bring my tribe with me.  “I am because WE are.”  For me success is impossible if I forget that.

  

Throwback Thursday

Glenda Yascone Christmas
Glenda The Golden/ Glenda The Good

Love Joy & Faith with Billboard's Michael Paoletta

Okay so it has been awhile since I've posted.  The four of us have been busy this 2016.  Love Joy & Faith are getting it together and when we work with mom we become the "4".  You know My Royal Family 4: our mom (Glenda) with her daughters Love Joy & Faith.  We love working with each other but lately the business side has taken over.  We of course need balance; we are artist first after all.  So I wanted to take a look back.  I wanted to remind all of us who we really are and where we came from.  We are not just

mother and her daughters.  We are Love Joy & Faith the sisters who act and sing together.  Mom is not just our mom.  Mom is Glenda The Good, Glenda The Golden.  What better day to remind us than Thursday.  You know Throwback Thursday.  Okay so some of these are pics don’t go way back but some of them do cause my mama was hot!!!!

PS I have included translations for Korean, Spanish, Chinese and Japanese.  Scroll down pass the translations to see even more pictures.  I apologize but I only know a little of each language and as I get better I will no longer need google.

Beauty Queen Joy Yascone with
Glenda Yascone and Faith

PS Mi incluido traducciones para coreano, español, chino y japonés. Desplazarse hacia abajo comunicar las traducciones ver aún más fotos. Me disculpo, pero yo sólo sé un poco de cada lengua y como me recupere ya no voy a tener Google.

PS 나는 한국어, 스페인어, 중국어, 일본어 번역을 포함했다. 아래로 스크롤하여 더 많은 사진을 볼 수있는 번역을 전달합니다. 나는 사과하지만 각 언어의 조금 알고 내가 먹을수록 더 나는 더 이상 구글하지 않아도됩니다.

PS我已經包括了韓語，西班牙語，中國和日本翻譯。向下滾動通過翻譯來看到更多的圖片。我很抱歉，但我只知道一點點每種語言，當我變得更好，我將不再需要谷歌。

PS私は韓国語、スペイン語、中国語、日本語の翻訳が含まれています。下にスクロールしてさらに多くの写真を見て翻訳を渡します。私は謝るが、私は、各言語のほとんどを知っていると私が得るとして、より良い私はもはやグーグルない必要がありま

Joy Yascone and Faith Yascone
Red Bank, New Jersey Days

Me disculpo por la traducción
Bueno por lo que ha sido un tiempo desde que he publicado. Los cuatro de nosotros hemos estado muy ocupados este 2016. El amor de la alegría y la fe son cada vez más juntos y cuando trabajamos con la madre que se convierten en el "4". Ya sabes Mi Familia Real 4: nuestra madre (Glenda) con sus hijas y la alegría del amor de la fe. Nos encanta trabajar con los demás pero últimamente la parte empresarial ha tomado el relevo. Nosotros, por supuesto, necesitamos equilibrio; somos artista primera después de todo. Así que quería echar un vistazo atrás. Quería recordar a todos los que realmente somos y de dónde venimos. No somos sólo

madre y sus hijas. Somos la alegría del amor de la fe y las hermanas que actúan y cantan juntos. Mamá no es sólo nuestra madre. Mamá es Glenda The Good, The Golden Glenda. ¿Qué mejor día para recordarnos que el jueves. Ya sabes retroceso del jueves. Bueno por lo que algunos de estos son las fotografías no van camino de regreso pero algunos de ellos causan mi mamá estaba caliente !!!!

Love Yascone
I get it from my mama Glenda The Golden

나는 번역을 드려 죄송합니다내가 게시 한 이후 좋아요 그래서 그것은 잠시였다. 우리의 네 바빴다이 2016 년 사랑의 기쁨 & 믿음은 그것을 함께 점점 우리가 엄마와 함께 작업 할 때 우리는 "4"가된다. 알다시피 내 왕실 4 : 그녀의 딸 사랑 기쁨 & 믿음과 우리의 엄마 (글렌). 우리는 서로하지만 최근 비즈니스 측면이 점령 한 작업을 좋아합니다. 물론 우리는 균형이 필요합니다; 우리는 먼저 결국 작가이다. 그래서 나는 다시 살펴보고 싶었다. 나는 우리가 정말 우리 모두를 생각 나게하고 싶었 어디 우리는에서왔다. 우리는하지 않습니다

어머니와 그녀의 딸. 우리는 행동하고 함께 노래 자매 사랑의 기쁨 & 믿음입니다. 엄마는 우리 엄마가 아닙니다. 엄마는 글렌 좋은, 글렌 골든이다. 무엇보다 날은 목요일보다 우리를 생각 나게합니다. 당신은 후퇴 목요일 알고있다. 좋아, 그래서 이들 중 일부는 사진이 방식으로 되돌아 가게하지 않지만 그들 중 일부는 내 엄마가 뜨거웠다 야기 할 수 있습니다 !!!!

Love Joy & Faith Red Carpet
Left to Right (Joy Yascone, Love Yascone & Faith Hope Yascone)

我的翻譯道歉
好了，所以它已經一段時間，因為我已經張貼。我們四個人一直在忙這個2016年愛喜＆信念一起得到它，當我們與媽媽的工作，我們成為“4”。你知道我的皇室4：我們的媽媽（格倫達）與她的女兒愛喜＆信念。我們彼此相愛，但最近在商業方面已接管工作。當然，我們需要平衡;我們是藝術家首次畢竟。所以我想看看回去。我想提醒大家的我們究竟是誰和我們從哪裡來。我們不只是
母親和她的女兒。我們的愛與喜悅誰的信仰和行動一起唱歌的姐妹。媽媽不僅是我們的媽媽。媽媽格倫達的好，格倫達黃金。有什麼更好的日子提醒我們比週四。你知道返祖週四。好了，其中有些是圖片不走回來的路上，但他們中的一些引起我的媽媽是熱!!!!

私は翻訳のために謝罪します
私が投稿したのでわかりましたので、それはしばらくしています。私たちの4人は忙しかったこの2016年ラブジョイ＆信仰はそれを一緒に取得していると我々はママで作業するとき、私たちは「4」となります。あなたが知っている私の王室4：娘ラブジョイ＆信仰と私たちのお母さん（グレンダ）。私たちはお互いが、最近のビジネス側が引き継がれていると協力が大好きです。もちろん、我々はバランスを必要とします。我々は最初の後に、すべてのアーティストです。だから私は戻って見てみたかったです。私たちは本当にある人たちのすべてを思い出させるしたかったし、どこから来ました。私達はちょうどではありません
母と娘。私たちは行動し、一緒に歌う姉妹愛ジョイ＆フェイスです。お母さんはちょうど私たちの母親ではありません。ママはグレンダザ・グッド、グレンダゴールデンです。何より良い日は、木曜日よりも私たちを思い出させます。あなたは先祖返り木曜日知っています。わかりましたので、これらのいくつかは、写真が道戻っていませんが、それらのいくつかは私のママは暑かった原因んです!!!!

Love Joy & Faith Red Carpet
Left to Right (Joy Yascone, Love Yascone & Faith Hope Yascone)

Love Joy & Faith
with Mother- Glenda The Good/ The Golden
and Agent Judy Savage 

Love Yascone
Tambourines To Glory
St. Louis Black Rep

Love Yascone

Glenda Yascone
Glenda The Golden Glenda The Good

Glenda The Golden
Glenda Yascone

Love Yascone

Glenda Yascone's Graduation Day
Glenda The Golden
Glenda The Good

Love Yascone

Love Yascone

Glenda Yascone (wearing white) with her Chicago Family
Glenda The Golden
Glenda The Good

Faith Hope Yascone and Love Yascone
LA Project
Love plays Biddy Mason and her little sisters mother lol
Joy was also in this Los Angeles play as the Older version of Biddy Mason
FYI Joy and Love are born in the same year 8.5 months apart

Faith Hope Yascone
Time Square

Faith Hope Yascone
Brazil

Faith Hope Yascone

Joy Yascone

Joy Yascone

Joy Yascone
Yes Joy Plays Beautifully 

Crystal McGuffey and Glenda Yascone
Sisters

Raymond Brown with Wanda Akin
Love Joy & Faith's Aunt and Uncle
Glenda The Golden's sister and brother-in-law
Yes one day we will catch you Aunt Wanda

The Advantage Of Being Sisters‏

Being a sister is not easy; being 3 sisters and all 3 of you are type A and talented, even harder (Note Feb 21, 2017 look at Introductions: The Magic That Is , Quest For A Good Hair Day & From W Magazine to Chrissy Teigen to Asking Yourself Those Questions to learn more ). 

We are all pretty, so we don't like be labeled the ugly sister. Although, I must admit from time to time I do make myself the ugly sister. Let me warn you now, that is a major set up. I do this because I want to know what kind of person you are. Many people are kept at arms length because they revealed their own ugliness. I guess that is one of the advantages of being sisters. There are 3 of us and it is very hard for people with bad intentions to get close. They do of course, but it is only because the one sister who is sounding the alarm was forced to shut up.

The other good thing about being sisters? There is always someone to cover for you. If Joy is supposed to be at a party but has an audition, no one will be upset with Faith or me replacing her. It is still a good time. If Faith is over booked but our mom needs someone's opinion about a new piece of property, I'll go with mom to look at the property and Joy will arrive ahead of time to one of Faith's other bookings and stall. Joy is great at stalling.  We could also look at my classic "Love" moment.  I am not feeling an event but I know Joy and Faith are going to look hot which means I don't have to try as hard, hehe.  They look good so I look good.

Being sisters always means you have a personal stylist, personal assistant and brand ambassador. Yes, there are major problems working with your sisters. The fights are hell on Earth. The resentments are growing and sometimes you feel like you aren't getting enough credit! The thing is, the good out weighs the bad. I gladly serve as my sisters spotlight, bodyguard, personal assistant, glam squad and back drop. I know we all have the same goals. We all want to get to the same place. We may all want to lead and yes sometimes that is a problem but it is also a great advantage. Once we figure out this dance of lead, follow, lead the world will be no match for us.

We Are All Sisters Happy Holidays

For years now my Aunt Crystal has held her annual Sister To Sister (Click here to read about 2013 party it was a blast) party. It is a party to bring together sisters of all kinds. Blood sisters, In-Law Sisters, Church sisters, Best Friend Sisters, Work Sisters and any other type of "sister" you can think of gather together for the first Saturday in December.  

Now our family is very big and I don't think all of Aunt Crystals sisters have ever been at this event at the same time. In fact I know they have not. Now my mom has been there almost every year and so has Aunt Kathy but Aunt Crystal has yet to be lucky enough to have all her sisters attend in the same year. There is Yvonne the oldest, then of course Crystal (the host), Glenda (my mom), Wanda, Lutisha, C.C., Tonya, and Kimberly. They are a party onto themselves and one day I am sure that all will party together. FYI funerals don't count, lol.

Aunt Crystal's party has more to do with building up a sisterhood than being blood sisters. She wants women to come together and eat because that's what families do. She wants us to play games together because that's how families build relationships. She wants us to laugh and dance together because that's how our sisterhood celebrates this life together. In December 2013 I became a widow. Eight months later in August 2014 my Aunt Crystal became a widow, too. It is 2015 and many of the ladies attended a wake before coming to the party. Regardless we all share our lives together.

Sisters are sisters but sometimes your blood sister can't be there for you. At a gathering like this it is okay because you always belong to a sisterhood of women. Sometimes your Aunt is your sister. Sometimes the person who works with your Aunt and that you are meeting for the first time, is your sister. When you enter my Aunts party you know that everyone is a sister period and that is a comfort. It kicks off the holidays and all though we may not know what the future holds, we know today there will be the game Pokeno.

Living While Mourning

I loved my husband and tried to integrate him into every part of my life.  My sisters loved my husband like a brother.  My mother loved my husband as if he were her son.  None of us could imagine living in a world without him physically being present.  It seemed impossible. 

Bryan left the physical world December 13, 2013.  That is right, he moved on to the other side less than two months ago.  We celebrated Christmas, New Years, my birthday and went on our first road trip without him during the roughly month and a half since I last physically saw him.  (Note: my sisters, my mother and I have seen him in spirit a few times but we are so distraught that I feel it affects those experiences.)

We did our best to get through Christmas, New Years and my birthday.  If it weren’t for my Aunt Crystal, cousin Shawn and Erik we really would not have made it through.  They dropped everything in their lives to help the four of us at great inconvenience to themselves.  They gave their very best for us and allowed us to mourn while celebrating all the holidays. 

Bryan’s parents and siblings handled his loss with a grace I did not have.  They were completely beautiful in handling the loss of such a wonderful son and brother.  I could only hope that one day I could be as graceful as they were.  (Note: May we never have to show such grace because of a tragedy again.  May all of us show grace in the way we live and may we never experience this kind of pain again.)  Bryan’s cousin was the only person who could calm me down on the day I discovered my husband’s body.  She may not know it but she gave me information that I needed.  She and my sister Joy together handled getting information to all family members on both sides.

We are all trying hard to live with the way our world is now.  Dealing with me is not the easiest thing during normal circumstances and right now it is near to impossible.  I am not a social person but as part of a group I am very social.  My sisters look at going out as fun.  I see going out as my job, which is a good thing, because if it weren’t my job I would never leave the house.  The point is, because I see being out as part of my job I went out New Years instead of staying at home.  I cried all night.  The lyrics of the songs just tore me apart.  Same thing on my birthday, we went to a casino to celebrate and to hear a live band.  I cried so hard that I was embarrassed.

The road trip we took was a trip Bryan had planned for us years back but we never took.  It was strange because Joy made the arrangements without remembering that Bryan had made plans for us to go there many years ago.  While Joy was booking the resort she kept commenting that Bryan was picking the resort.  She was right, he was.  It was very healing for us to be there.  We received several treatments including Body Talk, which has really helped us.  The Body talk treatment was so powerful we will continue to have them with our local practitioner.  I felt good at the resort all day and all afternoon but by dinner (every dinner at the resort) I cried.

Faith came up with a wonderful idea today.  She basically said that maybe we need to figure out how to have fun at home and it will help us have fun out.  That isn’t what she said but I can’t put it the way she did.  I just know that she had us play Black Jack today in the breakfast room and I feel better.  I can at least attempt to write.  Faith allowed me to feel happy.  I think that she believes that if we practice living at home as if we are out that maybe one day we can go to the real Black Jack table or dance floor or spa or fancy dinner and make it through without crying.  We can live the moments we are in and not the moment we want most to change.

For My Husband

Bryan I am not angry with you. I am your wife. I will always be your wife. You will always be my husband. I wish I could celebrate the best of us. I wish while we were on the same plane you could have seen the best of me. If I live past this moment I promise you, you will see my best. I promise you that you will see how great my love for you is. You are the man I loved to show off. I will show you that I can be a great wife. Build our world on the next plane. Make it bright and wonderful. Be there to receive all four of us. We will be new and you must show us how much fun the next life is. I give you permission to see everything in my heart, soul and body and mind. There are no locks. See it all. Know it all. I give you permission to speak to me whenever you want. I give you permission to show yourself to me whenever you want. I give you permission to move forward whenever you want. Go into the light and make a home for us. You were always a great man now become an even greater being. Let no one hold you back. Let no thoughts hold you back. Let no regrets hold you back. I am your wife! I love you now and always!

I sent this to him this Sunday at 7:53 PM.  I post it now in hopes that if he could not feel my words then that maybe others reading it will help him feel it.  I am...I just am. (Please note "if I live past this moment" only means I know I am not guaranteed any moment past the breath I have now.) Bryan passed away on the 13th Friday of this month of December in the of year 2013. 

My love, Bryan Scichilone.

Bryan's guest book

Christmas Party Kickoff-"Sister to Sister" (Getting In The Christmas Spirit)

Aunt Crystal wears the white hat.  Mom wears the Red.
The White and Red Queen

Our Aunt (Mom's sister) always throws a party the first Saturday of December titled "Sister to Sister.”  It is her way of celebrating her relationship with her sisters and other women.  It is her official Christmas kickoff party.  She never cancels, not during a snow storm, not during an ice storm, and not during a tornado.  It has become a tradition.  This year was no different.  We had a winter storm that Friday, and yet we were all there and ready to party.

Now, many of my Aunt's friends are older than her.  In fact, some of the women are at least 20 years older, so the party is kind of a strange and wonderful mix of women.  The point of the party is to have fun and, oddly enough, everyone does.  Now, at every party there is food, but this party is a little different.  My Aunt, who makes wonderful food, keeps it simple and tasty for this party.  We all eat well, but the main course is experiencing a day together.  It is a moment in time that makes you feel good about yourself and, frankly, privileged to be a woman.  Trust me, the guys have their own party that day, but I doubt it was as lively.

My Aunt's "Sister to Sister" party allows everyone of us to be little girls and grown women at the same time.  We play games.  We sing songs (Twelve Days Of Christmas every year), and we dance. Yes, we have a grand old time.  My Aunt may not know how much everyone appreciates her party, but we do! I admit sometimes I have a little panic attack before going.  I am not always feeling very social or in the Christmas spirit, but by the end of the night I am always glad that I came.  Plus where else am I going to see an 80 year old woman drop it like its hot!!! My Aunt's friends may be older than her, but they sure can party! 

Happy Halloween: You Are What You Eat

Halloween is a time to be creative, play hard and be a

little vulnerable. 

Our parents were married on Halloween, but Joy, Faith 

and I didn't know that until after their divorce.  

For our mom Halloween was a great time to celebrate with family and friends and to allow us, her children, to be anything we wanted.

This year we embarked on a new business 

so we had to scale back, but I couldn't stop myself from having a little scary, creepy fun.   

This idea came from my love of fantasy, science-fiction and horror.

PS In order to see the actual brain you must play the video which 

is listed last in this blog.

You are what you eat. 

The Ladies of the Round Table hope to make an evolutionary leap. 

The Aliens in the neighboring galaxy of Canis Major Dwarf are 100 times more intelligent than humans.  They are able to use telepathy and can teleport themselves to anywhere in the galaxy.  We have decided to supplement our diet with these aliens to improve our own brains’ abilities.

Alien Head With Brain

Alien Head With Korean BBQ Sauce

Alien Toes

Alien Ribs With A Kentucky-Korean BBQ
Sauce

Menu

Alien From Head to Toe

Alien’s Whole Head With Brain

With Sautéed Alien Toes

 Alien Flame Broiled Ribs  

Alien Flame Broiled Ribs

in Korean BBQ Sauce

Introductions: The Magic That Is

Mother Daughter Team

My Royal Family 4 Don't Ask Permission

There are of course four of us, one mother and three daughters.  Two are earth signs and two are air.  Two are born in the same year and three are born in the same month. All three daughters are cardinal signs (born leaders).  Maybe it would be easier to explain if I gave the stats:

Mother           Born- September       Virgo          Earth Sign

Daughter #1   Born- January           Capricorn    Earth Sign

Daughter #2   Born-September        Libra            Air Sign
                                                     
Daughter #3   Born-September        Libra            Air Sign

Note: Daughter number 1 and Daughter #2 were born the same Year

I happen to be daughter number one, yes, the only one born in January.  When I look at my family I see magic.  At least on paper I see magic.  I know when other people look at us they see magic, too.  When people see our names they think wow that is magic.  Our mother's name is Glenda and refers to herself as Glenda the Good Witch.  Yes, we know the Good Witch spells her name with an "I" but really my mom is Glenda The Good Witch.  My mother blessed me with the name Love.  Joy and Faith (Faith's full name Faith Hope) quickly followed me into this world.  So, Glenda The Good gave birth to three daughters named Love, Joy and Faith.  That is a lot to live up to.  People expect so much of you with names like ours. 

We all have one goal, to see the best of each other and to experience that magic together.  The thing is this is harder said than done.  The one goal we have requires us to accomplish many smaller goals.  Add to that the many road blocks of life and the fact that when one of us gets hurt all four of us are hurt  and you begin to understand that the magic that is within tends to elude us.

We have awesome times together but we also have epic fights with each other.  We are each others best cheerleaders so when one of us lose we are all pretty bummed out.  We work together on many projects  and compete with each other on other projects.  I personally feel that when one of us does well my life gets better and if all of us are doing well it feels like the absolute perfect magic.  "Doing well" many times concerns an outward appearance.  Image, money and material things are easy for all too see but I know there is more to it than that.  I also know that my sisters are more than good looking women in a Herve; they are also the women who light up a room when they walk in.

I want see what happens when we become our best.  I want to know the freedom of having a good hair day and being my perfect weight and having my career success all on the same day.  I mean, do any of us have that day really?  I might have a good hair day but my career is in the toilet or my weight is out of control.  Oh and even if I do manage to have an awesome hair/body/career day I am only winning one-fourth of the battle cause I want my sisters and mother to experience that day, too.

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Our mantra: We are the new Camelot. We are the Ladies of the Round Table. We are more powerful than the knights. We are more magical than Merlin and Morgan le Faye.  

These are a few of our appearances on TV, including our preparation for Christmas and one of our many Derby Parties. Special Thanks to WHAS Great Day Live with Rachel Platt and Terry Meiners, Wave Country with Dawn Gee (anchor Julian Glover), and WDRB Morning with Kieth Kaiser and of Course much love to Adam Richmond.

There is always a party with Love Joy & Faith